Stop Punishing, Start Connecting
Here’s The Secret To
Managing Difficult Toddler & Preschooler Behavior(Without Bribery Or Punishment!)
(Without Bribery Or Punishment!)
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STOP Trying To Bribe Or Punish Your Toddler Into Behaving.
Struggling to manage your toddler's behavior without resorting to punishment or bribery?
It’s because bribery and punishment don’t work. (At least not in the long-term!)
Why?
Because once bribery and punishment have been established as the “key to the door,” it becomes the only way to defuse any tantrums and defiance your little kid might have.
Makes sense, right?
So that begs the question:
How do you move away from bribery or punishment as a way of dealing with difficult behaviors when nothing else seems to work?
Here’s the secret:
You can't control your kid's emotions.
And they are going to get upset and angry about some of the most ridiculous things:
• Having to wear shoes
• A sandwich cut the wrong way
• Not being able to take all the stuffies to bed with them
(...and the list goes on!)
The secret is learning to control your own emotions (so your tiny human doesn't!)
Often, that’s easier said than done.
That’s why I’ve put together the mini-course you see on this page, to reveal to you
the key to managing your child's difficult behaviors and keeping your cool in the process.
These are the same tools I used with my 3 not-so-little kids
AND that dozens of my clients have used to get a handle on hitting, sibling fighting, defiance, and much more!
AND that dozens of my clients have used to get a handle on hitting, sibling fighting, defiance, and much more!
One final thing you might be wondering:
How Can I Say This Will Work
Even When I Know Nothing About Your Child?
Because this actually has very little to do with changing your child’s behavior (which would be like trying to stop it from raining on any given day)...
…and instead everything to do with simply changing the way you react to your child’s inevitable whining and defiance (they’re kids after all!)
And I promise – it’s a lot simpler than you might think!
You CAN manage your child’s difficult behavior without resorting to time-outs, yelling, cajoling, begging, pleading, or straight-up bribing them.
Introducing...
An actionable mini-course designed to teach you to handle your kid's behavior with confidence and ease.
What if I told you it’s possible to get your kid to cooperate without EVER putting them in a time-out?
Wait, what?!
Wait, what?!
4 Reasons Most Parents of Little Kids Generally Fail To Parent Effectively (and then feel discouraged and disconnected):
They tell their child to “use your words”
Sorry, parents! This does not work. Your child isn’t being defiant when they refuse to tell you what’s wrong or when they hit their friend instead of asking nicely.
The truth is, when children are emotionally upset, they are literally incapable of finding the words to say how they are feeling or to ask for something they want. THEY CAN’T DO IT. Parents continually set their kids up for failure when they do this…and then the parent feels like a failure because they can’t get their kid to act like a civilized human being!
They try to negotiate or talk to a child in the midst of a tantrum.
Parents, seriously - NO TALKING during a tantrum!
This is not the time to negotiate, talk about feelings, or problem-solve! When a kid is in full-on nuclear tantrum mode, they cannot hear or process what you are saying. Even that really verbal toddler who speaks in full sentences (even throws in a few SAT words)…your lips are moving but they cannot understand you!
They think they HAVE TO impose a “consequence” when their child breaks the rules.
I know this will come as a great surprise to you, but you do not ever have to give your kid a consequence. Little children are not breaking the rules on purpose. They are not acting this way on purpose to p*ss you off. When they break a rule or do something they “know” they’re not supposed to do, like pull the cat’s tail or climb up on the dining room table, remove their diaper, and start doing the chicken dance, it’s because THEY CAN’T HELP IT. I’m serious. If they were capable of following the rules and controlling their behavior at all times, they totally would because they want nothing more in life than to please you.
Your child depends on you for their very survival. It’s not in their biological best interest to p*ss you off. If we were cave people, we would thrust them out of the cave and they would die. (Luckily, we are more evolved than that.)
They think their child’s behavior is a reflection of their parenting (and therefore an indication of their self-worth).
It’s not.
Little kids are doing the best they can. YOU are doing the best you can with the information you have (from books, your own parents and all those parenting blogs, Facebook groups, and Instagram accounts you follow).
But at the end of the day, kids act the way they act because they are stressed or tired and their little developing brains just can’t handle it all. NOT because you’re a bad parent.
Here’s What You’ll Find Inside of this Mini Course...
- The Complete A-Z Course - This course will take you from being a yelling, cajoling rule-enforcer to the calm, confident, Rockstar Parent you were always meant to be.
- Some of the Best Parenting Strategies - You get what I've learned from my clinical training as a social worker and my doctoral research and distilled it down into a manageable, actionable mini-course.
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Bite-Sized Modules - You don’t have a lot of uninterrupted time, so I’ve created videos that are short and manageable, so you can watch them during that 20-minute nap the kid is now taking. (whhhyyyy?? What happened to the nice 2-hour nap he used to take?)
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Concrete Strategies That Really Work - Real strategies that real people have used and feel good about. I would not teach you anything I myself have not tried.
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Based on Research, But Isn't All "Just Theory" - I'm a researcher, so it's important to me that what I teach have some theoretical backing behind it. BUT I know that you're taking this mini-course because you're a parent and you just need some help with WHAT TO DO (not how to think about it, what other people think about it, what school of thought it emerged from...)
- Offers REAL Alternatives to Punishment - ...not just punishment disguised as something else. I have seen so many parenting books that claim to teach something new when in reality, it's just lipstick on a pig. It's just punishment and consequences all dressed up as something different. Not here. You do not have to punish your child, EVER.
- Shows You How to Parent in a Way That Works for YOU - This is not some formulaic "technique." This mini-course teaches you a BUNCH of things you can try - as well as a new perspective on why your child is acting this way in the first place. Not every approach works for every parent, so I teach you some things to try, how to view your child's behavior in a new way, and YOU get to try it out and see what works for YOUR family.
On this page you can get immediate access to everything above (and more) that you’ll find inside delivered to you immediately as an actionable digital course for just $7!
This mini course is delivered in bite-sized modules. Videos are short and manageable, so you can watch them during that 20-minute nap the kid is now taking.
Here’s What to Expect When Applying the Strategies from the Mini Course:
#1
YOUR CHILD COOPERATES MORE OFTEN
#2
EVERYONE FEELS GOOD
When you get what you want (fewer tantrums, more cooperation) and your child gets what they want (the nicer, kinder, calmer version of you), everyone wins!
#3
YOU DON’T HAVE TO BE THE “BAD COP” ALL THE TIME
Do you feel like you’re constantly nagging and micro-managing your kid’s behavior? But then you feel like your relationship with your kid is all about enforcing the rules? It doesn’t have to be this way!
#4
PARENTING IS FUN
When you have the right tools to manage the difficult times (yanno, whining, tantrums, bedtime refusal), parenting will feel lighter and more fun. It probably doesn’t feel so fun right now – at least not when your kid is laying on the floor and shouting “I hate you” at the top of their lungs – but I promise, family life will feel more fun when you have the right tools in place.
Here’s Exactly What You’ll Learn In...
The FULL How to Manage Difficult Toddler and Preschooler Behavior without Resorting to Bribery or Punishment Mini Course
(a $205 value)
You'll get access to:
Module 1: Using Play to Elicit Cooperation
- Why bribery is not good for your relationship with your child.
- Behavior as a form of communication.
- Your role as a parent versus your relationship with your child.
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How to use play and playfulness to elicit cooperation.
Module 2: Sports Casting
- We are not raising children, we are raising humans who happen to be in the developmental stage of childhood.
- We imagined what kind of adult we want to raise - what qualities we hope to cultivate in this human we are raising.
- What coercion and punishment really mean and why it's bad for your relationship with your child.
- How to use the skill of "sportscasting" to handle conflicts instead.
Module 3: Using Special Time with Your Child
Parents often complain that their child is doing something “just to get attention.” Well, guess what? Your child needs your attention! Humans are wired for connection, and little children thrive on our undivided attention.
In this module we cover:
- Why rewards are (surprisingly!) not a good strategy for motivating your child.
- How to view your child’ behavior differently
- How to use "special time" to give your child the connection s/he is craving.
Module 4: Lower Your Expectations
Why do parents struggle so much to get their kids to cooperate? One of the main reasons is we set our expectations too high. We often ask our kids to do things they are simply incapable of doing.
In this module we cover:
- Why you shouldn't say "use your words" to a young child (and what to do instead).
- The importance of lowering your expectations.
- How to use empathy as a tool for managing difficult behaviors.
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The concept of the "second chicken."
And to Make Sure You're Supported Every Step Of The Way, You'll Also Get Access to These Bonuses:
Alternatives to Punishment Cheat Sheet
This is your go-to, put-it-on-the-fridge cheat sheet for what to do instead of time-outs and “no more screentime if you’re going to act that way”!
What to Say Instead: 20 Ways to Create More Connection with Your Kids (e-book)
Sometimes we say the wrong thing because we don't know what to say instead. The e-book will teach you the exact things to say in difficult parenting moments.
When your kid refuses to get into the bath, you take a deep breath and act silly and playful (instead of frustrated and angry). Your kid looks you right in the eye and runs straight to the bathroom and hops in the tub. You cannot even believe that it worked so well (and so fast!)
When it’s time to pick up the toys, your kid starts whining, “I don’t waaaa-naaah!” and instead of saying “too bad, kid, you’re doing it anyway!” you get down on their level, look them in the eye and say, “I know, I get it. Sometimes I don’t wanna either, but right now we have to.” Then the kid gives you a hug and you do it together.
You knew exactly how to handle the next meltdown without cajoling, bribing, or losing your cool…because you knew EXACTLY what to say and how to respond.
That’s what we aim to achieve with this mini-course!
"I found the course super helpful with providing examples and tips for things we deal with daily. I really appreciated the short segments for each class as well!"
Megan, mom of 4 and 6 year olds
"I would definitely recommend Katherine’s mini course as a stepping stone to learning more about parenting mindfully and reducing stress when it comes to the everyday struggles of parenting."
Alli, mom of 3 and 5 year olds
"This course really helped me step back and see how I can make small changes in my daily interactions with my child to reduce behaviors. I honestly have not had to “manage” any behaviors this week! Since I have been more mindful, playful and laid back my son has been a cheerful, agreeable bundle of joy!! "
Mom of 2
Join the Mini Course and Get:
Module 1: Using Play to Elicit Cooperation
Module 2: Sports Casting
Module 3: Using Special Time with Your Child
Module 4: Lower Your Expectations
PLUS Exclusive Bonuses:
BONUS: Alternatives to Punishment Cheat Sheet
BONUS: What to Say Instead: 20 Ways to Create More Connection with Your Child (e-book)
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Just $7!
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Will this work for my 5, 6, 7, or 8-year-old?
Yes!
These strategies are effective for kids up to about age 10. How you use them may look a bit different for older kids, but the tools themselves are the same.
These strategies are effective for kids up to about age 10. How you use them may look a bit different for older kids, but the tools themselves are the same.
How much of a time commitment is this?
I know you don’t have time for “one more thing” and I am committed to making this program doable and actionable. (As you know, I like to keep things short-n-sweet!) The videos are all around 20-minutes and you can watch them at your leisure.
What if I have more questions?
Hit me up at support@katherineendy.com! I’m happy to answer any and all questions via email or hop on a quick call with you.
What if I want 1:1 support, too?
If you'd like to hear about my 1:1 and group coaching programs, you can book a call here.
When can I start?
As soon as you click "checkout" you will receive instant access to all the materials. That means you can binge-watch everything or savor it bit by bit. It's completely up to you!
Will this really work?
My previous students have reported that these strategies worked for them as soon as they gave it a try. But YOU have to decide to make changes to your parenting.
Meet Katherine Endy, Ph D, The Family Life Coach
Join the Mini Course and Get:
Module 1: Using Play to Elicit Cooperation
Module 2: Sports Casting
Module 3: Using Special Time with Your Child
Module 4: Lower Your Expectations
PLUS Exclusive Bonuses:
BONUS: Alternatives to Punishment Cheat Sheet
BONUS: What to Say Instead: 20 Ways to Create More Connection with Your Child (e-book)
A $205 Value Get it Today For
Just $7!
How To Manage Difficult Toddler & Preschooler Behavior without Bribery or Punishment
An actionable mini-course designed to teach you to handle your kid's behavior with confidence and ease.
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